Sex and Sexuality

sex and sexualitySex and sexuality are perhaps the most talked about topics of our time. Yet they are almost never viewed from a spiritual point of view.

Many people think that spirituality and sex are completely unrelated topics. This is largely because we often associate spirituality with mainstream religion. Many religions have dogma that denies or restricts human sexuality, but from a spiritual standpoint, sex is simply a part of life.

Let’s begin with one simple fact: People have sex for more reasons than simple procreation. If this were not so, we would only have an urge to mate once a year like some species of animals. The sex urge in humans is complex and multifaceted. In its highest form, we use sex to share love, warmth, tenderness, passion, playfulness, trust, and commitment.

In lower forms of sex, people selfishly ignore their partners’ needs, use sex as a weapon for power and control, or even perform acts of violence such as child abuse or rape.

Interestingly, a major cause of sexual abuse is a denial of normal, healthy, sexual activity. If we come to know ourselves as spiritual beings, we will have little need to indulge in the darker aspects of sexuality. But when we suppress our normal sexuality with feelings of guilt or shame, our natural tendencies often transform into socially unacceptable behavior.

Here is the paradox: If we were not being constantly told that sex is dirty by mainstream religions, sexual aberrations would all but cease to exist. Violent sex crimes would almost completely disappear if people accepted their normal, healthy sexuality.

Sex is the most physically intimate bond that we can have with another. It affects us emotionally as well as physically. During sex, a certain amount of karma is exchanged between partners. The amount of karma and the form it takes depend on the people involved and the agreement they’ve made, but the notion of casual sex with no karma is a myth.

When a relationship ends, the karma between the two people is not complete until nothing but goodwill remains between them. This may happen right away, but it usually takes weeks, months, or years; occasionally, it even takes lifetimes. For those who are sincere about their spiritual growth, much of the karma can be worked out through dreams.

Many difficulties can be avoided when we first enter a sexual relationship by clearly communicating our desires and expectations with our partner. Many sexual relationships involve a lot of game playing. It is the game playing rather than the sex that often creates problems. Honesty and integrity are key elements in good relationships of all kinds.

Sex is neither good nor bad. It is simply a part of life. It is how we use it that makes it uplifting or destructive. If consenting adults enter into an open and honest sexual relationship in which no one is hurt, then no spiritual law is broken.

The topic of masturbation is worth mentioning here. Although masturbation is seldom discussed openly, it remains the most accessible sexual outlet for people who do not have a regular partner. Woody Allen has a terrific attitude when he writes, “Don’t knock masturbation. It’s sex with someone I love!”

The word “masturbation” might be translated from other languages as “self-pleasuring.” This is a wonderfully accurate way of describing it. Although it is not a complete substitute for sex with a partner, it is nonetheless a great way of releasing and balancing sexual energy and giving love to ourselves.

The subject of homosexuality is also an important one to discuss from a spiritual perspective. We are all Soul, an atom of God’s love that is neither male nor female. As we reincarnate through thousands of lifetimes, we take on both male and female bodies. Sometimes we have more male energy; sometimes the female energy is dominant. In our present lifetime, there are men and women with a lot of female energy, men and women with a lot of male energy, and men and women who are somewhere in the middle. Most women have more female energy and most men have more male energy, but this is not always true.

The amount of male or female energy we have brought with us from previous lives often influences our sexual orientation in this life. For instance, a woman with a recent, significant past life as a man, may well end up becoming sexually attracted to women in this lifetime.

It’s important to note that no one is completely heterosexual or homosexual. People may label themselves “straight,” “gay,” or “bisexual,” but in truth, we are all somewhere in between. Most of us are closer to being heterosexual, probably to ensure procreation of the species. Yet almost everyone has had at least some same-sex fantasies. From a spiritual perspective this makes perfect sense. We all have memories and feelings from thousands of lifetimes as both men and women.

We are all sexual as well as sensual beings. Most of us feel good touching and being touched, whether it is through making love, hugging, or even shaking hands. If we can acknowledge the full range of sexual and sensual pleasures that life has to offer, we will stop being afraid of our own sexuality. In doing so, we will stop judging others who have a sexual orientation different from our own. One of the signs of spiritual growth is that we can live our lives fully and allow others to do the same. Divine love, not judgment and fear, is a measure of spiritual growth.

It is important to maintain equilibrium in every part of life. Overindulgence in sex or total abstinence (including masturbation) are indications of spiritual instability. That said, we are all different, and we each need to find a healthy balance in our lives. To be complete spiritual beings in this world, we must learn to accept and love ourselves in every way – spiritually, mentally, emotionally, physically, and sexually.

 

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2 thoughts on “Sex and Sexuality

  1. Thanks, Michael. Penny Kelly in her tome “Robes, a Book of Coming Changes”, she is oft visited by other dimensional beings who explain to her, page 123-125, that the purpose of sex is not primarily for procreation, but to readjust the wave matrix of our physical structure: “To help continuously align and re-tune the wave matrix of the human body, the sexual experience has been designed as an automatic, self-correcting mechanism through which the body cycles…” It is a wonderful and enlightening book on many fronts.

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    1. Thanks “Necker” and thanks Penny Kelly. Yes, balancing and re-balancing the forces all around us in whatever ways is truly important. Balanced sexual blending is just one of those ways, but seldom seen that way. Thanks again!

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